Originally posted January 5, 2017 Aren’t these pictures of Valentine in the buggy adorable? That carriage is 80 years old. It was a gift to Eric’s grandmother when she was 4 years old, she used it with her dolls. Can you believe she saved it all these years?? Nana gave it to Charlotte last summer, and now she pushes Valentine around in it.
Babies used to die all the time in past generations. Disease was obviously a big culprit, but I’ve been thinking lately that some of it must have been related to breastfeeding.
Some women just don’t produce that much milk, and I’m one of them. It’s such a strangely emotional issue. Somehow our society has duped women into connecting their self worth with whether or not they breastfeed. I’m sure this is partly a leftover mindset from a time when, if you didn’t produce the milk, you had to deal with the guilt of a dead baby, which would obviously be devastating.
Even though logically I know there’s only so much I can do, the emotional side of my brain keeps screaming, you’re not doing it right! There’s something wrong with you! Your only job is to feed this baby and you can’t do it! If only you were more committed, then your baby would be healthier and gaining more weight. Because there ARE things you can do. (Eat more. Eat better. Take herbs. Drink mother’s tea. Eat lactation cookies. Pump. Don’t pump. Make sure you’re latch is correct. Check for tongue tie. Go to a baby chiropractor. Give your baby tummy time. Sit in a chair and feed your baby all day, every day. Coast on all of your other responsibilities, including older kids.) And if you don’t do all of these things until you reach the very brink of insanity, well then you aren’t a good mom.
We went to stay with my brother over the holidays, he’s a doctor. He told me that studies show pretty insignificant differences between breastfed and bottle fed babies. I said, why do people make such a big deal of it then? He said, “Because women like to be mean to each other.” I know that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but I do wonder if that’s where some of the societal pressure comes from. I opened up this discussion on Facebook and got an overwhelming response, all positive, all supportive. People gave their opinion on what I should do (I’m trying to decide if I should start supplementing formula) and then said things like, you’re a good mom! Follow your gut! Fed is best! No shame! Whatever you do, it’s going to be okay! Mom guilt is totally a real thing. I feel so blessed to have support from really nice women who aren’t going to judge me. I feel even more blessed to live in a time when there is a reliable back up when you can’t produce enough! At the end of the day all I have to deal with are some tough feelings and perhaps hand washing bottles; not a funeral for my child. How lucky are we, seriously?
How to make Butternut Squash Risotto
Have you ever made a risotto dish? It’s just a different (Italian) way of cooking short rice, arborio rice being the most common. Traditionally you have to cook it over the stove, adding broth in increments and stirring constantly (this makes it creamy). But for this recipe, there are only a couple steps on the stove before it goes in the slow cooker and then your job is basically done.
I’ve been making this risotto for a while now and it never disappoints. It’s perfectly moist and creamy, has tons of flavor (Parmesan!! Sausage!!), and is healthy to boot. Perfect way to use up all those beautiful winter squash at the store!
(Have you ever use a canning lid to scoop the goop out of a pumpkin or squash? It’s so much easier, try it!)
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